|
  Sue:
- Have you ever sent your husband out for sanitary
napkins and he came home with Dinette dinner napkins?
- Do you think that men look women like we are from another
planet?
- And are PMS and
menopause words which makes your hubby visibly cringe and run hiding in the bathroom?
  Well, Dr. Bruce Bekkar
has written a book just for him and YOU. His book Your Guy's Guide to Gynecology
covers the ABCs of women's reproductive health, he removes the secret curtain that
surrounds "that part" of a woman' s body. Not only is his book
enlightening for any man but really helps women get in touch with how her body works-
whether it's during pregnancy, menopause, or during her monthly menstrual cycle.
Your Guy's Guide to Gynecology presents all of this
information, and it is thorough, in a funny and very friendly way. The quizzes
before each chapter will cause you both to laugh and learn; all at the same time.
Dr. Bruce Bekkar is a board-certified practicing
gynecologist in California. Dr. Bekkar wrote this book along with Dr. Udo Wahn to help
bridge the communication gap between men and women.
"....Nothing is more significant in male-female
relationships than communications and understanding. And that's exactly what this
book is intended to promote-communication and understanding."
Dr. Bekkar fosters this level of understanding by throwing
all the medical terms out the window and replacing them with simple language and
explanations.
Your guys Guide to Gynecology is an excellent book for both
men and women. It will lead to better relationships through better understand.
Hi Dr. Bruce, great to talk with you. Your book Your
Guy's Guide to Gynecology is the only one on the market today that explains women to men :
). It's a super book : ).
Why
Buy This Book?
Sue:
Most guys shy or run away from any matters dealing with health. This includes
even their own health. Why would a guy buy this book??
Dr. Bruce:
Great question! At first, we expect that more women will buy this book- for the men in
their lives, as well as for themselves. Women, after all, were the inspiration for Your
Guy's Guide to Gynecology. Many patients complained to us that they
couldn't talk to their partners about the simplest "female problems" without the
guys turning green or running out to the garage. Our
hope is that women will bring our book home for their partners, and they'll use it
together to deal with those "female problems."
Surprisingly, some men are already going out and buying
this book on their own! These guys, like those who attend our very successful guys-only
class called "Women, their Hormones and You (W.H.Y.?) have discovered that
"female problems" affect them too. They want to understand, and they want to
help.
Getting
Your Partner Interested
Sue:
Your book Your Guys Guide to Gynecology is fabulous for everyone; especially
women. I love the way you cover all bases of women's health and find this to be an
excellent reference book. The question is, how would a woman reading this book get her
partner interested in it too??
Dr. Bruce:
Just let him see it!
This is not a typical medical book; it's "guy-friendly," with
interactive quizzes, sports analogies and even a little humor (for instance, there's a
"Top 10 List of Things You Never Say to Women with PMS"). We purposely wrote it
this way, to make these awkward topics easier to learn about.
The purpose of Your Guy's Guide to Gynecology is to make
men comfortable for the first time with women's reproductive health, and then teach them
how to help in ways that their partners will appreciate. In our experience, once they
begin to understand, they want to learn more.
Myths
& Misconceptions
Sue:
In your many years of experience what have you found to be the biggest
misconception or problem between men and women when it comes to women's reproductive
health???
Dr. Bruce:
There are two primary problems:
Most guys don't understand the basics about women's reproductive health, and they
spend too much time "fixing" their partners without listening to them.
Our own research has shown that guys lack fundamental
knowledge about women's reproductive anatomy; this makes topics like estrogen, menstrual
cycles and fertility very mysterious. Our book covers this information in the first
chapter, "Basic Female Stuff," and then goes on to issues that effect couples
frequently, like birth control, pregnancy planning, PMS, menopause, bladder
infections, fibroids, and even gynecologic surgery. These topics are much less confusing
once the guys know the basics.
About "fixing" their partners:
men have been problem-solvers for their mates since the first cave-woman said to
her spouse,
"Honey, that dinosaur outside is really bothering
me!" He figured she wanted him to "fix the problem," and guys have been
killing dinosaurs for their partners ever since.
This kind of behavior works fine when the complaint is,
"The light bulb is out in the bathroom," but it doesn't when she says, "My
period is heavy, I have cramps and my breasts are sore." In the second case, instead
of needing something fixed, she's asking for him to listen.
Guys usually don't appreciate the therapeutic value
of simply listening without interrupting
something women have known forever. The good news is that men can learn to do
this once they see how well it works. By reading Your Guy's Guide to Gynecology, guys will
actually learn to listen!
PMS
Sue:
We all hear the late night jokes about PMS. Men fear and women
suffer with it. What is the most important thing guys should know and do when it comes to
living with a woman with PMS??
Dr. Bruce:
Most importantly, the Premenstrual Syndrome
is real (it's not "all in her head"), it's very common, and there are several
things guys can do to make life better for their partners (as well as themselves).
A couple of suggestions:
- Decrease her stress:
help out more around the house and delay difficult conversations until she's
feeling better;
- If she's having a bad day,
ask her how she's feeling; then, really listen to her entire answer without
interrupting.
More recommendations are given by "Supportive
Guy"
at the end of Chapter 6, "The Attack of the Killer
Hormones."
Sue:
Father's Day is coming
soon.
 For every guy who relates to women- as
boyfriend, husband, father, or co-worker, this book serves two purposes: it will make
those women better understood by him, and thereby improve their relationship, and it will
give him the tools to help them. As a Father's Day gift, Your Guy's Guide to Gynecology
can make both of you happier.
Book Excerpt:
from "Your Guy's Guide to Gynecology"
by Bruce Bekkar, MD
Attack
of the Killer Hormones
Excerpt reprinted by the permission of the
author.
©2000 Bruce Bekkar, MD. All rights reserved
 |
Migraine Headaches
What can you do about them?
by Sue Spataro, RN, BSN
Right now, 1 in 11 Americans get migraine headaches.
These 28 million
people have to deal with strong, unexpected, severe throbbing, pain usually located on one
side of their head ; they may even experience nausea and vomiting. Migraine headache
suffers in the United States, are on the rise; since 1990 the incidence of migraine
headaches has increased by 60%. Find out more about Migraines: Who has them? What are
the Beginning Signs and Symptoms of a Migraine Headache? What Causes Them & How Can I
Prevent Them? What medications are available?
Find out more
What is PMS?
(Pre-Menstrual Syndrome)
 symptoms,
causes & treatments
PMS or premenstrual syndrome is a regular pattern of physical and/or emotional
symptoms that can severe enough to disrupt your life. PMS can take many forms as are the
women who suffer from it. Find out about what symptoms are part of PMS, what causes them
and also ideas on what you can do about them from the experts in the field such as
Stephanie Bender author of PMS : Women Tell Women How
to Control Premenstrual Syndrome and Dr Bruce Bekkar author of Your Guy' Guide to Gynecology and more.
Your Guy's Guide
to Gynecology
by Bruce Bekkar M.D., Udo Wahn
This book was written with guys in mind, but many women have told us that they'd
like to read it too. They like the idea of a medical book that doesn't take itself too
seriously, that uses interactivity and even a little humor to decipher a difficult topic.
Both men and women need to understand women's reproductive health, because it's central to
relationships and family life.
Meet the author
Linda Ojeda, Ph.D
"Menopause Without
Medicine"
hosted by Sue Spataro, RN, BSN
 interview & FREE
Excerpt
 Back
in the 1980s when perimenopause and menopause were unheard of, Dr. Ojeda was pouring over
medical journals researching what has now become of the most important health issues for
women- perimenopause and menopause.  Learn
more about Perimenopause & Menopause, Health Supplements, Herbs & Other products
including Black cohosh, Dong quai, Chaste tree (Vitex), Promensil, and
Estroven. Learn more about Anxiety & Perimenopause, the role of exercise along
with a FREE excerpt on Depression & Mood Swings.
Strong Women,
Strong Bones:
Everything You Need to Know to Prevent, Treat, and Beat
Osteoporosis
by Miriam Nelson (Contributor), Sarah Wernick
For those to whom osteoporosis is a serious concern, this will be welcomed as a
straightforward, single-purpose guide to its prevention and treatment. Nutritionist Nelson
and writer Wernick (Strong Women Stay Slim; Strong Women Stay Strongneither reviewed)
recommend exercise and nutrition measures as the building blocks of prevention, bolstered
by medications when needed. |
Join our health discussion groups | search this site